As part of her fortnightly column in The Guardian about her own journey and experiences of living as a trangender woman, Juliet Jacques has written an interesting piece about her experiences with strangers and the questions that they have to ask.
“Throwing myself into living as female, I anticipated the difficulties of ‘passing’ in public. I was less prepared, however, for the barrage of questions in more private spaces. I soon realised that being expected to field invasive questions, often from strangers, is as much a part of the ‘real life experience’ as handling abuse in the street, and one reason why so many transsexual people aspire to live in ‘stealth’.
I was reluctant to cover this, primarily as I thought I couldn’t address it better than Calpernia Addams (and partly because readers might think I’d stolen her idea). But the reason why her video resonates with so many transsexual people is because of the frequently encountered assumption that by externalising our gender dissonance, we somehow invite any question on any aspect of our lives.
I wasn’t sure why such people thought it my duty to answer intimate questions – particularly about my genitalia or my sexuality – that they’d never dream of asking anyone else. Seeing my irritation at being asked something inappropriate, their justification was often that they were “curious”. The idea that their curiosity might affect someone other than themselves often came as a revelation.”
Article sourced from guardian.co.uk – Article continues here.